‘The Office’ Finale: Yeah, I Cried

The_office_USI cannot argue with Salon’s Willa Paskin that the argument at the core of The Office finale was kind-of depressing: “In the end, it argued that settling for a mediocre job for way too long can bring you happiness beyond measure.” That’s the absolute antithesis of my own belief structure—I am always rooting for the small-town girl to make good, to have the expansive life she’s capable of. And I cannot argue with Paskin’s assertion that in many ways, the finale negated the very idea the series seemed to be lampooning: the soul-sucking nature of cubicle-driven America.

But in the end, I fell for those closing arguments: They were glad they had been filmed for the documentary-within-the-show. They had insights about themselves while watching their edited-for-TV foibles. They could show it to their kids someday. Partly this rang true to me because I’ve interviewed a fair number of reality-show participants in my time, and they all say this stuff. It makes sense. You already did the show, for better or worse. You’re bound to make the best of the memory, shrug, and go on with your life. And while I don’t believe they ever are 100-percent glad they’ve been filmed, I do think they must have insights, and they probably show (selected) clips to their kids someday. It would be both cringeworthy and cool, for instance, to have footage of yourself falling in love with your soul mate. My partner and I once dug up the first emails we ever sent to each other — we cringed, we laughed, we swooned.

In the end, I cried — a lot — watching the final moments of The Office finale. I felt vindicated for my time spent with the show, during its highlights and its uneven last two seasons. Finales are notoriously hard to pull off, for obvious reasons. The Mary Tyler Moore Show nailed it, with a poignant mix of sadness (everyone got fired), humor (that group hug), and moving on like all real-life people do. Friends, in my opinion, signed off a little too neatly, but then again, I never liked Ross and Rachel together. Will and Grace overshot and did way too much. Seinfeld upset the nation by giving its viewers a huge middle finger; people hated that finale, I think, because it laughed at them for having watched and cared about these despicable characters for so long. (But I also posit that the show had limited choices for a finale; what, were Elaine and Jerry supposed to suddenly realize they were in love and get married?)

But, you know, The Office finale was fine for what it needed to do. Did we need Jim and Dwight to have become besties in the past year? No, but to be honest, I don’t totally doubt that development. I think it was meant as a sign of Jim having accepted his life in Scranton and having matured to a point where he could see Dwight as the benign goofball he was. Weren’t we all a little uncomfortable at times with his frat-boy pranking of the less-cool kid in the office anyway? In a way, I thought the message of the finale was that Jim had earned that shot at a grander life in Austin by making peace with Scranton.

Or maybe I’m just rationalizing my own emotional release. Our reactions to such things as TV finales involve so much more than their artistic merits. We are almost always mourning for, pining for, or simply recognizing the time that has passed in our own lives between the show’s debut and its finale. I remember watching that show from the bitter beginning, when no one watched. I remember (and this was obviously unique to my job at Entertainment Weekly) forming a bond with then-NBC president Kevin Reilly because of my early love and support for the show. I remember its rise, I remember having the great privilege of reporting on the episode where Jim and Pam got married. I can look back on how my own life has changed in that time and appreciate the special moments it brought me. And even with all of those glamorous connections my job afforded me to the show, I still remember most clearly how I swooned, and even where I was, and what it meant for me and my then-unrequited crush, when Jim and Pam kissed for the first time. As long as a finale can connect us to all of that, it’s done its job.

‘American Idol’: Competence Is Boring, But Could It Be Profitable?

220px-American_Idol_logoAs a huge American Idol fan, I’ve been disappointed in this season, but for all the wrong reasons: I love the judges, who have been so articulate and competent that they ended up with nothing but truly talented vocalists going into the final weeks. I think the women who ended up in the top spots have amazing voices, classy presentations, and impressive ability to interpret songs.

And I haven’t cared for weeks about who wins or loses. From what I can tell, this is because they’re all so darn good, I can’t whip up much emotion. Kree? Sure, she’d be a good Idol. Candice? Heck yeah, why not. Angie? Yep, I can see her having a competent and successful career as well, and I wouldn’t begrudge her that for a second. I haven’t felt much at all about Idol since the overdue ousting of Lazaro, and that was mainly because it was starting to feel like cruel punishment to keep the so-so vocalist around just because he had a compelling life story.

It turns out I miss the rage brought on by, say, a finals consisting of two teenagers with preternaturally mature voices but otherwise devoid of the life experience necessary to sell the country songs they keep trying to sing. As an example that may have resulted in the crowning of a person named Scotty McCreery.

I wonder, however, if this could be the new model of American Idol: churning out genuine talent so as to capitalize on record sales and longevity instead of the quick-but-huge ratings hit of past seasons. Phil Phillips seemed to usher in a new era in Idol with his win last year. It marked the first time I thought America had chosen impeccably well, and even his first single — a spot traditionally held by the schmaltziest of schmaltz — was great. His album was even better — well-crafted, artistic, of the times.

If the financials work out such that the network and the producers rake in enough money over the long term from crowning more relevant, talented artists, we could see even a scaled-back Idol last for years beyond its ratings dominance.

Barbara Walters: The Real Life Mary Richards?

abc_barbara_walters_thg_130128_wgI grew up idolizing both Barbara Walters and Mary Richards. I moved to a big city, became a journalist, and lived the better part of last decade as a single, independent, successful (if I do say so) career woman. I don’t think this is a coincidence. I think it’s the power of great role models.

Of course, one of them is real, and one is the fictional lead of The Mary Tyler Moore Show. But having written a whole book about that show, I often find myself wondering what Mary would be up to right now if she were real. The fun of the game is that my own imagination can choose whatever it wants, and what it chooses mirrors what I really want to be like in 10, 20, 30, or 40 years. As Barbara Walters announced her retirement this week, I knew: This was Mary’s retirement. This is exactly what she would be doing right now after a long, groundbreaking career. She’d be signing off her successful talk show, leaving it in the care of her hand-picked co-hosts.

What’s astounding about Walters’ career is that, between her and Mary, she’s the real one — and yet she also did everything Mary did, but years earlier. She came up through the secretarial pool behind the network news scenes, just like Mary, and eventually broke through the male-dominated newsroom, just like Mary did. She then became a writer and segment producer (like Mary) doing “women’s interest” segments on the Today show. Soon she was on the air, which I believe was only a matter of time for Ms. Richards. She scaled great heights from there, becoming the show’s first female co-host, then nightly news’ first female co-anchor on ABC.

I encountered Walters in the ’80s through her riveting interview specials with celebrities and heads of state alike. I fell in love with her ability to coax a story from anyone. I studied her tactics. You don’t ask people, “Why are you crazy?” you ask them, “What is your response to critics who say you’re a little eccentric?” Sometimes, you soften the blow they know is coming: “A lot of people are wondering about your divorce, of course, so I have to ask: What happened?” Other times you rip the band-aid off: “Did you sleep with the president, or not?” I use many of her tricks to this day (though I have never asked anyone what kind of tree he or she would like to be). She made me want to tell people’s stories, and doing emotional interviews became one of my specialties at Entertainment Weekly, which made me proud. I learned to make people comfortable, while still maintaining my journalistic integrity, by watching Walters.

I also learned that “female” doesn’t, and shouldn’t, mean “not serious.” Because she was a woman, but a pioneering one, she managed to mix traditionally “female” topics — celebrity, fashion, feelings — and “male” ones — politics, war. This eventually led to one of the most innovative shows on television — yeah, really — The View. For 16 years now, her daytime talk show has mixed co-hosts of various races, backgrounds, political affiliations, and ages to discuss everything from reality TV to presidential elections. It’s become a must-visit show for both starlets and political candidates. And the show has one unifying message: Women’s voices matter.

We’ll miss you, Barbara. Thanks for making the world safe for Mary Richards, me, and all the women like us.

Let’s Stop Talking About Amanda Bynes

Bynes in saner times. Courtesy: Wikimedia Commons.

Bynes in saner times. Courtesy: Wikimedia Commons.

I long ago had to turn off my feelings about Lindsay Lohan, because otherwise I’d sink into massive depression. But I haven’t yet achieved such levels of numbness about Amanda Bynes, and so I’m profoundly sad right now.

If you haven’t been following the former tween/teen star’s exploits, well, God bless you. Please don’t start now. Trust me on this. But I will give you a brief recap: Bynes was a standout on the Nickelodeon sketch show All That, then got her own show on the network. From there, she starred in a series of deliciously sweet, funny, clever, and benign romantic comedies, including She’s the Man (in which she played a girl pretending to be a guy to be on the soccer team and also made out with Channing Tatum) and What a Girl Wants (which had something to do with London and Colin Firth as her dad). She also starred on the underrated, if not exactly groundbreaking, WB sitcom What I Like About You with Jennie Garth. And she was truly brilliant as a Christian bitch in Easy A.

Yes, she looked like she was embarking on one of those careers where interviewers would end up asking her, for all eternity, “How did you manage to turn out so well, when so many other former child stars lose their shit?”

But now she’s totally lost her shit, and because she’s doing it mostly online, every move is documented and amplified. She’s posted rambling and general scary-crazy-acting footage of herself, topless photos of herself, and other disturbing images. She’s shaved half her head and Tweeted all kinds of obscene thoughts. She’s gotten piercings in both her cheeks and told gossip mag InTouch“I have no clue (why people say I’m insane). Every time I’ve heard it, it came from an ugly person’s mouth, so I don’t care.” This culminated (alas, probably not for the last time) with her former publicist Tweeting at the NYPD last night, begging cops to find her house and help her — he’d just spoken to her and was worried about her mental state.

Having written a lot about current Disney and Nickelodeon stars, as well as the original Mouseketeers, I have a soft spot for the intense struggles involved with overcoming child stardom. I know this is nearly impossible when it comes to a famous person doing crazy stuff publicly, but I wish we could all stop paying so much attention to Bynes’ antics while those close to her get her whatever help she needs. She’s obviously doing this stuff because she craves the attention and knows she’ll get it. But she needs less attention and more real help.

Great TV Shows

game-of-thrones-hbo-tv-series-9These aren’t in any special order, but this will give you some idea of my taste and background in this boundless medium:

Game of Thrones

Lost

The Sopranos

Friends

Mad Men

Six Feet Under

Modern Family

Seinfeld

The Mary Tyler Moore Show

Curb Your Enthusiasm

The West Wing

Freaks and Geeks

30 Rock

Friday Night Lights

The Good Wife

Chappelle’s Show

Alias

New Girl

The Mindy Project

All in the Family

Saturday Night Live

Veronica Mars

Sex and the City

Girls

Life on Mars (the British version)

Frasier

Cheers

The Office (the British version)

Great TV Pilot Episodes

alias-650x487We who write about pop culture for a living love nothing more than making lists of the stuff we love. So I’ll be sharing a few of mine with you over the next few days.

Pilot episodes are difficult beasts. (Two of my favorite shows of all time, Seinfeld and 30 Rock, had subpar pilots that their creators would be the first to tell you weren’t all that.) You have to establish all your major characters, the premise of the show, and the backstory necessary to make it interesting, all while proving to skeptical viewers that your show will be funny/dramatic/addictive. I’m always in awe when I see a good one; often, because I am lucky enough to have watching television as a component of my job, I will watch a great pilot several times, like a little kid having discovered a new favorite Pixar movie.

Here, my favorites (in no particular order, as I’m not about to compare, say, Lost to The O.C.):

Alias: Creator J.J. Abrams established his signature style here, creating relatable characters with realistic lives rooted in everyday minutiae … who just happen to end up in extraordinary circumstances that stretch credulity. In this case, we met regular grad student Sydney Bristow, who was lured into a secret world of double-agenting and elaborate conspiracies while dealing with roommate issues and a guy friend who had a crush on her. This pilot hooked me so much that I’d suffer through every minute of Rambaldi later.

The Cosby Show: So simple, so brilliant. This pilot showed us that what looked like a regular family sitcom would be extraordinary under the influence of the singular Bill Cosby. The highlight came when son Theo gave an emotional speech pleading for Dad to let him be a “regular person” instead of expecting him to be a doctor and lawyer like his parents, and Cosby shot him down cold: “That’s the dumbest thing I ever heard. No wonder you get Ds in everything. Now, you are afraid to try because you are afraid your brain is gonna explode and it’s gonna ooze out of your ears. I am telling you, you are going to try, and you are going to do it because I said so. I am your father. I put you in this world, and I’ll take you out.”

Desperate Housewives: Yeah, this show flew off the rails by the end, but it’s pilot was delectable. Like many mystery-driven shows, it promised more than it could ever deliver with the suspicious suicide of Mary Alice Young. But the pilot laid out a fully realized vision for a brand new kind of show, with a hyper-real suburban neighborhood full of twisted, dark secrets, technicolor female characters, and the highest of camp.

Flash Forward: I feel like I was one of the few who fell prey to this pilot’s charms, but man, do I love a good time-travel drama, and this one seemed so intriguing. It was cinematic, well-acted, gorgeous (how could it not be gorgeous with Joseph Fiennes starring?), and built on a promising premise: Everyone in the world blacks out at the same time, and while they’re passed out, they all see what seems to be their future — and it turns out everyone saw the same period of time, and their own pieces of the same future. Too bad it fell apart as it unspooled, forcing the dreamy good guy/bad guy Jack Davenport to instead play doomed director Derek Wills on the equally doomed Smash.

Game of Thrones: This had so much to do, with its sheer epicness. But somehow, with just the pilot episode, we understood all of the main players, the fictional kingdoms, and the creepy sibling sex that led to poor Bran falling off the castle. Nice work with that cliffhanger, guys.

Glee: I can’t believe they’re still making this show, but if you had told me after I watched the pilot that I’d someday loathe this show, I would think you were nuts. Man, was that first episode full of, yes, glee! This started when I was at Entertainment Weekly, and I had an office across from my fellow writer, Tim Stack, who has covered Glee from the beginning at Watergate levels. For a few months, you could hear that climactic performance of “Don’t Stop Believin’” coming from both of our offices several times a week.

Lost: If I were putting these in order, this one would probably be my No. 1. I don’t know how many times I watched those first two hours during the summer of 2004, when I had an advance press screener and no more episodes to quench my curiosity. (“Guys … where are we?”) Since then, I’ve watched it a minimum of four more times, and I’d do it again. The amazing plane wreckage, the realistic crash scenes, the elegant (and somehow un-cliched) character development — if you ever find yourself bitter about the finale, go back to this pilot and remember it was worth the ride.

The Mary Tyler Moore Show: Well, I mean, I wrote a book about this show, so it was bound to come up. Not all shows that go onto greatness have it down in time for the pilot, but this one did. Here we meet the indelible characters of Mary, Rhoda, Phyllis, Lou, Ted, and Murray, all in quick succession, all fully realized, and with room for a heart-wrenching visit from Mary’s ex. And if a memorable quote is the surefire sign of a good pilot, this one takes the prize: “You’ve got spunk.”

The Mindy Project: This show has gone through some major highs and lows in its first season, but it seems to be settling into a groove now — and interestingly, that groove seems to be right back where it began in its exemplary pilot, focusing on Dr. Mindy Lahiri’s love-life delusions juxtaposed with her professional mastery. Star Mindy Kaling created the show and wrote the pilot, and she gave us her distinctive voice and skewed world view from the start, wrapping them up in a main character who sounds like a 15-year-old Valley Girl, owns her sexuality like Beyonce, dreams of being Meg Ryan in a romantic comedy — and still, somehow, practices medicine in that TV-doctor-brilliant way that makes you wish you could go to her for your next checkup.

Modern Family: What a clever little twist at the end! All these disparate-seeming nuclear families are related! And they were so funny in the process that we didn’t see it coming!

The O.C.Another one I could watch a million times, just to wallow in the sheer pleasure of it all. This show, at its best, was exactly like its rousing theme song: all about hitting the pleasure centers in your brain, nothing more, and yet … that’s not exactly nothing, is it? The delicious drama, the satisfying class clashes, the gorgeous people and locations, and, of course, “Welcome to The O.C., bitch.” Sometimes a great pop song is all you need.

Studio 60 on the Sunset Strip: Remember how we all thought this was mind-blowingly good, and it would totally outlast 30 Rock? That was funny. But true at the time: The first hour was fast-paced, dramatic, witty, and just the right touch of TV-insidery. Then it just got preachy and bloated and full of itself. It was nice of Aaron Sorkin to just start at that insufferable place with his latest, The Newsroom, wasn’t it?

 

‘The Mary Tyler Moore Show’: Handling Hot Topics, from Race to Coming Out


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didn’t shy away from controversial topics, though it didn’t tackle them with nearly the same frequency as its contemporary, All in the Family. It took a while for the producers to figure out exactly how to approach hot issues in a way that felt right for them — not like an All in the Family rip-off. Two key episodes illustrate the differences: One, called “Some of My Best Friends Are Rhoda,” hammered away a little too much at the central issue, Rhoda being excluded from a country club because she’s Jewish; the other nailed the issue of Phyllis’ gay brother beautifully, subtly, and very Mary Tyler Moore-ly.

“Some of My Best Friends Are Rhoda” does boast one of the best episode titles on a show with lots of great episode titles. (“Toulouse Lautrec Is One of My Favorite Artists,” about Mary dating a super-short guy? Yes!) But aside from that, the second-season episode ranked as one of the show’s worst. The producers themselves are the first to admit this. The half-hour guest-starred Mary Frann (later Dick Loudon’s beautiful wife on Newhart) as a new friend of Mary’s who belongs to the country club in question. All the plot did, though, was give Mary the chance to speechify against the ills of bigotry, then grandly dismiss Frann’s character from her life. “That was just not our MO,” creator-exec producer Allan Burns says. “There were maybe two or three times in the history of the show when we did something a little preachy, and it didn’t really work.”

A year later, however, they got gay rights right. The entire half-hour focuses on the growing relationship between Rhoda and Phyllis’ visiting brother, Ben. Phyllis worries the two will get married, and she’ll end up with her nemesis as her sister-in-law. Even the audience starts to think this could be it. Then in a beautifully played final scene, Rhoda disabuses Phyllis of this notion: “He’s not my type!” she says with a conviction that confuses all of us.

Phyllis: “What do you mean, not your type? He’s attractive. He’s successful. He’s single.”

Rhoda: “He’s gay.”

Phyllis: “I’m so relieved.”

Perhaps the writers approached the topic so subtly — and thus hilariously — because they didn’t set out to. The script originally called for the Rhoda-Ben liaison to worry Phyllis, but to be a heterosexual encounter. But guest star Bob Moore, who was playing Ben, was gay, so director Jay Sandrich and producers James L. Brooks and Allan Burns saw an opportunity to change things up.

It worked, with the humor coming from the characters, as well as the delivery. Harper insisted on delivering the “he’s gay” line with a shrug. “I think it should be factual,” she told Sandrich, “like he’s a priest or he’s married or he’s going to Tibet for ten years.”

It got one of the longest studio-audience laughs in the show’s history, and brought the idea of laughing at people’s reactions to gayness — rather than at gay people — to mainstream TV’s millions of viewers.

Sex and ‘The Mary Tyler Moore Show’: How Mary Stayed Out All Night and Went on the Pill

mary-tyler-moore-200a072108The Mary Tyler Moore Show is no Sex and the City. I see SATC as MTM’s natural cultural heir — along with Girls and 30 Rock all the young-woman-in-the-city shows now — but was surprised by how many of the former MTM writers I interviewed for my book hated SATC. They seem to prefer more traditional sitcom craft; they all cited Modern Family as their favorite current show.

But Mary Tyler Moore did break new ground when it came to young, single women’s sexuality. At first, the show treaded lightly in the dating arena, sending Mary on random, mostly comical dates good for plot — a short guy, her journalism class teacher. And the writers always knew their limits, despite the progressive sensibility of the times. “Mary Goes to the Playboy Mansion, I think, was an idea whose time had never come,” writer Treva Silverman told me. “‘Mary swims topless, as Hugh Hefner looks fondly on,’ was not going to happen.” Mary Richards herself delivered a rather famous statement on the issue: “I’m hardly innocent. I’ve been around. Well, maybe not around, but I’ve been nearby.”

Nearby got a little closer to around, however, by the third season. Mary stayed out all night on a date, returning home the next morning in the same dress, a subtle suggestion of overnight activity. Just a few weeks later, another sly reference: We learned Mary was on birth control when her mother called out to her father, “Don’t forget to take your pill!” And both Dad and daughter replied, “I won’t!”

The slight change in Mary’s onscreen admissions made big waves — so much so that a different show, Bea Arthur’s Maude, remarked upon it. “Look what happened on The Mary Tyler Moore Show recently,” Maude’s next-door-neighbor, Arthur (Conrad Bain), complained. “She went out on a date and she stayed out all night.”

Maude: “All night? Our little Mary?”

Arthur: “You can sneer all you want, Maude, but as Mary Tyler Moore goes, so goes America.”

Sex and the City and Girls may just prove his point.

‘The Mary Tyler Moore Show’: Is It the Greatest Sitcom of All Time?

themarytylermooreshow31506I would say yes, but that is because it reflects everything I like best in my sitcoms:

It has way more heart than Seinfeld.

It’s more realistic than I Love Lucy.

It’s more relatable than Arrested Development.

It’s more naturalistic than All in the Family, where the giant issues of the day descended upon the Bunker living room as if from above, to be debated (usually with yelling), and then dispensed with in 22 minutes. The Mary Tyler Moore Show‘s issues rarely felt forced: Of course Mary was on the pill. And Phyllis’ brother just happened to be gay.

Still, it’s more socially conscious than Friends or Cheers, more consistent than The Office or Roseanne, more groundbreaking than Dick Van Dyke, more engaging than Modern Family or Frasier.

It’s funnier and has much tighter plots than The Cosby Show. It inspired 30 Rock.

What do you guys think?

How Did ‘The Mary Tyler Moore Show’ Affect Your Life?

MTM.8-14As the release date for my book Mary and Lou and Rhoda and Ted gets closer (5/7/13), I’m gathering memories from fans about the show. Feel free to still tell me your favorite characters or episodes, as well as why you loved the show, but the question of the day is: How did The Mary Tyler Moore Show affect your life? Did it inspire you to go into journalism, or show you that being single was okay, or make you want to wear adorable business suits? Share in the comments below.